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Tips to a brighter Relationship
The wise couples (you know the ones that most people say “they were meant to be”) turn into wine and keep on getting better with age. Yet, lots of relationship fade away after the excitement phase is over and separate themselves like oil and water.

If you want your relationship to have the long life it deserves, have a look at our 10 things to do for a brighter relationship.

1. Have a positive attitude towards life

Everyone wants to be around cheerful people that seize the moment and take the best of everything.

A constant attitude of dissatisfaction, complaining and nagging — attracts negative emotions creating a terrible mood, and implicitly creating bad relationships between people.

Having and keeping a positive attitude towards life makes you a more attractive partner while at the same time, makes you a happier person overall.

2. Love yourself

Your partner doesn’t want to be the object of your sacrifices. He wants you to be happy with him just as much as he wants to feel good with you.

You both need to be pleased and fulfilled with your own individualities in order to be able to draw the same emotions in your relationship. And, more importantly, you need to preserve your own personality above and beyond the things you’re doing to please the other person.

3. Pay attention to your partner’s wants and needs

Men and women are different and inherently share different perspectives on relationship and what makes them happy in life. Acting controlling and trying to change your lover around to like the things that you do and undertake the actions and reactions you see as righteous — is an instant major turnoff for your partner and extremely frustrating for you.

4. Show admiration and gratitude

If you are in a relationship with someone — it goes without saying that you appreciate them for a series of qualities, the way they treat you, how they make you feel etc.

The key here is to REMIND your partner CONSTANTLY just how much you admire the things he/she does for you and the way those makes you feel.

5. Be careful with words

“Words cut deeper than swords” is more than just an idiom. It is a universally valid truth.

You cannot take back an offense, an insult, a humiliation, a lie or any verbal abuse. No matter how much you’ll excuse yourself after the storm has passed. It will irreversible linger in the back of your partner’s head and “scar” her/his feelings or opinions about you.

6. Show respect

Any kind of healthy relationship needs to be built on mutual respect.

Respect is multi-leveled and shows that you have common-sense and value the person for what they are and stand for. Therefore, you need to respect them verbally (see item 5), you need to respect their opinions and decision even when you don’t agree with them, you need to respect their friends and family even if sometimes it’s just for the single reason that “they come with the package”.

7. Be empathetic

We all go through stressful periods, have bad days and lazy moments and get affected by various factors which alter our spirits and self-worth. Having someone besides you who accentuates your awful mood rather than ameliorating it — is even worse.

So, try to cheer up your other half when they’re down, accept that your partner might be upset by something that does not impinge on you (and vice-versa) and show them compassion. Bear in mind that once in a while, we all need some time alone.

8. Make memories together

There is nothing that brings you two closer than going through happy, adventurous and also less joyful experiences together. Try to make an effort towards taking some trips, lessons (dance/music), doing whatever you find exciting and fun (scuba-diving, camping, participating in a contest) as long as you do them TOGETHER.

Take a lot of pictures and souvenirs to reinforce your good times and to remember that blissfulness, if and when things become tedious.

9. Fight routine

Sometimes, life just seems too demanding and tiring to find the time, patience and will to fight daily routine. Still, as I said previously, memories are what make your connection deeper and more meaningful. Sitting in front of the TV the whole afternoon and ordering dinner every evening is not too much of an experience.

10. Spice up your love life

Routine is again a turnoff when it comes to your most intimate moments. Once again, being adventurous and open to trying new things can make a huge difference.

You need to constantly find new ways to appeal to your partner’s senses and outreach his or her desires.

Try new positions and / or locations, anticipate the moment (through messages, notes, phone calls) and value foreplay in order to relate at a deeper emotional level. Dare to dive into each other’s fantasies and be that person that he or she never had and never wants to leave.

There’s nothing wildly spectacular about the pieces of advice shared throughout the article yet that’s precisely the reason why they work — always! They fit with any person and any type of personality, it’s what people in successful relationship do, and what keeps them in those relationships.

So, are you ready to brighten your relationship with these 10 easy and natural things?

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  • Phylicia Masonheimer

The Problem with "Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner"Social media has brought out a dark side of Christianity. Torrents of hate spill into Facebook comments. Names are called. Insults are hurled. And somehow, we’re expected to win people to Christ through all of this. It’s this dark side of faith that the world reacts against so violently; their scapegoat for subjective morality. If Christian love looks like this – who would want it?

Hate the sin but love the sinner.

We use the phrase liberally, but are we liberal with the love?

There are plenty of Christian leaders who see this hatred and say, “No more!” But with the same breath that claims the love of Christ they write off the law that made Him necessary. Blurring the created lines of right and wrong, they “love the sinner” – and lie about the sin. Thus we end up right where we began: Striving for the ever-evasive balance of love and truth.

Our faith is like walking a tightrope. With each step, we are in danger of a wild swing into legalism or compromise. We walk the thin line – this narrow path – only by keeping our eyes fixed on the perfect balance of love and justice: God Himself. For if God did not define these things for us, we would have no measure of right versus wrong. We would be unable to give grace because there would be no reason to give it – without sin, there is no cause for mercy.

I’m the first person to call us to a higher standard of holiness. But as we navigate this sharply divided world, both online and in real life, we need to ask ourselves the following questions:

DO WE ACTUALLY HATE SIN, OR DO WE SIMPLY LOVE JUDGMENT?

Using “hate the sin” as a license for cruelty defeats the purpose of proclaiming truth. The gospel needs no help causing division; it is foolishness to those who reject it (1 Cor. 1:22-24). Because the gospel will divide based on its exclusive nature, our job is not to further that division but to simply love the Lord our God with all our hearts (emotions), souls (being), minds (thoughts), and strength (effort). Our second directive is to love our neighbor as much as we love ourselves.  (Matt. 22:37-40)

God hates sin because He is holy. Sin is contrary to His nature and prevents humanity from approaching Him. But because God is also loving, He desires a relationship with humanity. Jesus was the solution to the problem of sin, atoning for our unholiness and making possible what would otherwise be an impossible relationship with God.

Thus, God doesn’t hate sin arbitrarily. He doesn’t take joy in condemnation (2 Pet. 3:9). He judges because He is holy and sin must be judged. Yet it is by God’s mercy that any of us are able to claim the name of Jesus today. We are called to discern right from wrong in the world, but we are not called make judgment our hobby. To hate sin doesn’t mean we point it out at every opportunity, finding satisfaction in the failures of others. Our hatred for sin should be a direct result of our love for gospel hope. We only hate sin because it prevents a relationship with God. God is the judge; we are just the messengers, and we would do well to remember that.

SEE ALSO: 5 Ways to Protect Your Marriage on Social Media

DO WE HATE SIN IN THE LIFE OF OUR NEIGHBOR BUT IGNORE IT IN OUR OWN LIVES?

This question convicts my heart whenever I scroll through social media. Rife with animosity, Christians go to battle against even more malicious commenters in a never-ending debate about homosexuality, abortion, alcohol, and politics.

Yes, we should stand for what is true. But if we really hate sin, we will hate all sin, starting with the sin in our very own lives.

It’s really easy to point fingers at people who live a lifestyle devoid of God. It’s not so easy to see the sin in ourselves. Modern Christians, we are a speck-picking bunch. In the name of “truth” we seek out sin and we point at it like an over-eager hunting dog, waiting for God to pat us on the back. We are not called to seek out sin but to seek out those who need the gospel (Matt. 28:20). In the process of presenting the gospel, sin must be addressed. But hating sin is not our Christian day job.

The best way to understand, recognize, and address sin is to hate it in our own lives first. That means knowing the Word of God – really knowing it. Really studying it, not just proof-texting passages for Facebook debates, yanking phrases out of context to prove a point. We hate sin best when we love God most, because only His hatred for it is a direct result of His love for mankind.

SEE ALSO: How Sin Kills the Pro-Life Mission

DO WE ARGUE OVER THE DEMISE OF SOCIAL MORALITY WHILE IGNORING OUR OWN LACK OF HOLY LIVING?

Lifestyles of sin are celebrated in cultures worldwide. It seems to be all the rage. Morals are relative. Everyone does what is right in his own eyes. Society is indeed descending into moral chaos. But before lamenting the rapid descent, we should check our own moral thermometer. Are we ignoring the same heart attitudes that have been our culture’s demise?

Pride. Selfishness. Anger. Materialism. Envy. Lust: “…after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” (James 1:15) Our world is dying because of the idolatry of desire. Where self replaces God, there is no room for abundant life. The eternal is replaced with the material, and separation from God is the inevitable result.

We bewail politicians and feminism and Common Core but the harsh reality is that this society is the way it is because of human hearts just like ours. We cannot expect a transformed culture when we have not transformed our very own minds. We cannot expect society’s sins to be conquered when we refuse to acknowledge our own transgressions.

So before arguing about abortion online, shut off the sexually promiscuous TV show.

Before bewailing the demise of the family, respect your husband. Love your wife.

And before burning sinners on a verbal stake in the name of “hating sin”, ask yourself: Does this action reflect the holiness of God? Am I really presenting the truth in love, or have I lost my love in zeal for truth?

I’m preaching to myself here. Instead of repeating, “Hate the sin, love the sinner”, I’m telling myself something else:

“Hate my own sin, love the way God does.”

Mercy is what draws us to repentance; it is the hope of our gospel. It’s the most lasting, loving way to truly hate sin.

This article originally appeared on phyliciadelta.com. Used with permission. 

Phylicia Masonheimer blogs at Phylicia Delta, where she teaches women how to preach the gospel with their lives: proclaiming Jesus in work, love and home. Her eBook Christian Cosmo launches March 1st, 2017

I’ll start with my parable of a little boy from a poor home. one day playing in the woods, he found a precious stone, he loved it dearly. He couldn’t take it home for the many questions his poor parents would ask. So at the end of each day playing with it, he would bury it. The next day, he would set out early, dig up the stone, go to the nearby stream, wash it up, play with it till evening and bury it again. He was soon getting fatigued at the route he had to take every day just to play with something he loved. So he found a beautiful way out.

You will found out at the end of this thread what the brilliant young boy’s solution was. So here goes what God has been to us forever. 

God has never been mad at you, never was, never will be. But you are too scared to accept the reality that you are loved unconditionally. God’s covenant with Abraham was independent of Abraham’s actions. In blessing, I will bless you… Abraham had no part in the covenant. Years down, his descendants, Israel are on the march out of Egypt, note there was no ten commandments, so how did God deal with Israel? Pure Grace, he did good for evil unto them because he loved them. But as with all things good and undeserved, the Israelites were sceptical. Like we do: “At what point does my sin become too much of an issue with God?” “shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?” sad

The Israelites shot themselves in the foot and told God “all that you command of us, we are willing and able to do” The consequence…? They had just told God, do to me according to my own works, I don’t want to be loved unconditionally, I want my love to be measured. The Israelites wanted God to deal love unto them on a performance basis. It saddened God. His nature is love and He deals it in abundance. Before this time, their clothes & sandals grew on them, when they asked for food he gave them manna. When they complained about manna, saying “Oh Lord what is this worthless bread” God didn’t say see these ingrates and kill them, nope,  He gave them Quail. Isn’t His love pure? All that changed when the law came, you do good, you get good, you do bad, you get beat. The wrath of God was unveiled. They demanded it.

God couldn’t hold out on anger that long so he did what only he could. God became man, and made a covenant with God on behalf of men. So as you see again, as with Abraham, man didn’t have a contribution to the covenant, because HE DOESN’T NEED YOU TO LOVE YOU! The law in itself is a stumbling block, Christ said this to the Pharisees. Notice something in the way he addressed the teachers of law… Christ called Pharisees “Brood of Vipers” that the law has blinded them. Paul said in Romans “where there is no law, there is no sin”. Some “My Pastor said” Christians will say “But Jesus said, I didn’t come to abolish the law but to fulfil it”. Hmmmmmm

I will explain this now.

When you fulfil a thing, what does it mean? You satisfy the conditions in it and it is a done deal right? Let me get deeper for clarity. Lawyers on here know that you can’t punish someone twice for the same offence, even if you uncover new evidence. He is free, He is free. Hence, in the forgiveness of sins: Jesus hung on the cross like a common thief for you and I and screamed “it is finished” what did he mean? He meant: every punishment for sin, every condemnation, every sickness, has been fully paid for on the cross. He took it all on his body.

So Friends, what does “it is finished” mean to you? It means blow after blow after blow, Christ took all your punishments… And said…”… There remains no other sacrifice for sin”  Sin ended on the body of Jesus, believer, you are discharged, blameless and acquitted!!! Christ himself was the end of the law, why did the curtains of the temple tear open from top to bottom, The forgiveness of sins went in.

The law in itself is condemnation, look at the people that got healed in scriptures. they had to forego condemnation to be healed. A life of no condemnation is what we now call FAITH. Hence Christ always told those he healed… “Go, your faith has made you whole”. Put simply, Jesus meant: “thank you for coming out of the law, sin and condemnation, that’s the only way to get a taste of my pure love”.

I like to say it often but Christian apologetics hate me for this “the law was not made to be kept” Let me tell you why the law was made. The law was brought in so that the sin might increase. (Romans 5:20 NIV) I will tell you what this means. Remember the Israelites story? God made the law so that they would sin more and get burnt out, so that they would need a saviour: Jesus. The law was brought in so that man would come to the end of himself, be tired of keeping the laws and beg for a saviour, THE GRAND PLAN!

There were two people Jesus said had great FAITH in scriptures, they were the Syro-Phoenician woman and the Centurion, want to know why? They had one thing in common!!

Wait for it!!

THEY WERE NOT JEWS, THEY WERE NOT UNDER THE LAW, THEY HAD NO CONDEMNATION TO DEAL WITH!!!

I will wrap this up in a moment with the question “shall we continue in sin that grace may abound”

Let heavenly wisdom flood your heart

Paul wasn’t asking a question, he was repeating people’s popular question to him, like we do today. Paul’s answer is in the next verse…His answer was “God forbid, how can you who have died to sin live any longer in it” 

I will tell you what Paul means by God Forbid…

“God forbid” in this is context is “How can these things be?” Like: is that a question, it would be stupid and disrespectful to even answer. Paul was saying “Its impossible, you can’t live in sin, sin has been paid for, Christ is the end to sin and judgement, how can it be?” Paul even said to the Romans “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus” BELIEVERS, PLEASE BELIEVE!!!
People are quick to take me to 1 John  1. Let me show you what it means. Discern what parts of scripture is yours and which is not.

FOR UNBELIEVERS:

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

FOR BELIEVERS

“…that you don’t sin. But if anyone sins, we have an advocate with the Father—Jesus Christ, The Righteous one” (1 John 2:1)

Sons of God hear His voice.

Remember the boy at the beginning of the story? Here was what he did and he that blows my mind every time. He pegged the precious stone between two rocks inside the stream, so that he doesn’t have to dig up and wash every day. Beautiful stuff.

Believer, you are the pearl of great price, God was tired of digging you up and washing you every day, so he put you under his blood and washes you continually with his waterfall of forgiveness, his blood. Believer you are righteous once you have Jesus. It is a GIFT.

Now, “Grace has found you, Love will avail himself to you every step of the way”. The devil has no grip on you, the sacrifice on your life is an overpayment, be free of condemnation right this moment, YOU ARE FREE!!!

I Pray that GRACE AND PEACE be MULTIPLIED unto YOU. You will know the length, breadth and depth of God’s super abounding love for you. Grace will abound towards you so bountifully and tangibly that you will experience his love so thick like a mist. Grace will envelop you. GRACE HAS FOUND YOU.

Stay Blessed.

Charles Isidi @i_am_pixelhub

I just dusted up my brain, so I could get back to my old habit of writing one Poem a day, but instead of writing new poems, I found my self rewriting the works of other great Poets. The most stunning and breathtaking was “The Square Root of Three, by David Feinberg”.

I most commend how he creatively combined Mathematics into his works to push forth a Pretty Baby like this Poem.

As you read it, allow the words sink deep into your brain and caress your senses. Let there be an intimate relationship between your mind and the spirits of this stunning work of art. Thereby you can give birth to sweet sensations that can outlive your body and create a ripple effect on your life in relation with Love.

ENJOY

The Square Root of Three {3}

I fear that I will always be
A lonely number like root three

A three is all that’s good and right,
Why must my three keep out of sight

Beneath a vicious square root sign,
I wish instead I were a nine
For nine could thwart this evil trick,
With just some quick arithmetic

I know I’ll never see the sun, as 1.7321
Such is my reality, a sad irrationality
When, arc! Just what is this I see,
Another square root of a three

Has quietly come waltzing by,
Together now we multiply
To form a number we prefer,
Rejoicing as an integer

We break free from our mortal bonds
And with a wave of magic wands
Our square root signs become unglued
And love for me has been renewed.