THE WRONG GUY … DON’T MARRY HIM ….(MUST READ)

Posted: April 14, 2014 in Arise and Shine, Da Grace Race, Dairy of a Freeman, Family, Help Line, Hmmm, Touchstone
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Over time I have come across people who want to know if their relationship is worth taking to the next level. I usually shy away from answering them or even try to evade the question for 3 major reasons. Firstly because I don’t want to be dubbed a Relationship Breaker, Secondly, because, I fear that the answers won’t be welcomed and thirdly, because, my Relationships has not yielded some sensible fruits in the last eighteen months. But if there is anything I realized with the number of huddles I have encountered in life, is that, my experiences are a lesson to many. So basically, I will be using this piece to answer all the doubts you have about your Boyfriend, Fiancé or Spouse (whichever one suits you).
I know the Men won’t be pleased with this but, of what good will it be if the truth about our specie isn’t put out there?
Now here we go,
1. Any guy who cannot delay gratification but wants everything from you even before marriage needs to be watched. He wants early sex, undivided attention and adoration, he is all over you all the time and is extremely jealous, he disrespects your values in life and you opinion does not really count; he wants you to disconnect from your friends and family members and focus only on him. Such guy is a wrong guy!
2. Any guy who finds it difficult to be open up or be transparent to you and avoid talking about his past relationships, failures, financial challenges, emotional problems and is very good at concealing negative things about himself to make a good impression, must be re-assessed before you commit. Relationships cannot grow without transparency.
3. Any man who cannot take responsibility for his life but blames everyone for his challenges except himself is not worth your hand in marriage! He may
also not take responsibility for his marriage!
4. A man, who is a fault-finder and a perfectionist, is difficult to please. In his world, there is no room for mistakes of any magnitude and if you make a mistake, be ready for harsh criticism. On the other hand, if he is good at messing up everything around him, unfortunately he could mess up your life too!
5. Never consider getting married to a lazy man who does not have a realistic vision for his life! A man who is going nowhere will lead his wife nowhere! A man’s responsibility is to provide leadership and direction to his family! On the other hand, when a woman with vision marries a man without vision, she naturally becomes the leader of the home which will eventually lead to conflict or disorder! Believe me; it does not work out well in
marriage!
6. Never marry a man who does not have a relationship with God unless you too do not have one. A man who loves and respect the Lord will love and respect you in obedience to the Lord!
7. Be mindful of a man who is hot tempered, if he flares up because of things that are not significant or at a slightest provocation, it might be dangerous getting married to him unless he changes. Any man with this trait could be aggressive, physically abusive and unpredictable in marriage. A man who cannot control his temper is a time- bomb waiting to happen!
8. A guy, who lives beyond his means; borrows money and does not pay back, is a potential wrong guy. It is different when the debt he owes is a one-off thing and he is making serious effort to pay back but when it is a habit, watch it. There are some men out there who take loan from people or banks for business or investment but end up using it to buy flashy cars, and live in exotic apartments, wear expensive clothes and jewelries, etc. Before you commit to him, research his credit rating or else your wedding party will be glamorous but you would inherit so much debt when you are finally married to him.
9. Never get married to a man who does not respect constituted authority but delights in breaking the law. His actions might land you and your kids in prison one day. A guy who does not have respect for your parents or your relatives may hardly respect you
10. Be weary of a guy who sees you as an alternative to his dream wife! Marry a man who sees you as his number one and not a consolation
for missing another lady out there. – You are fearfully and wonderfully made! – You are loaded with great potential and decked with splendor! – You are the radiance of God’s glory, the apple of His eye! Therefore, let no man take you for granted! Any man that will ask your hand in marriage must meet God’s standards of a REAL MAN
Ok Guys now you can go ahead and kill me.

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