Random Thoughts on Ese Walter’s Affair With Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA ::: by Koye-Ladele Mogbekeloluwa

Posted: August 25, 2013 in Arise and Shine, Da Grace Race, Dairy of a Freeman, Family, HMMMM, Naija Scene, Opinion, The Grind Theorem, Touchstone
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Koye-Ladele Mogbekeloluwa: Random Thoughts on Ese Walter’s Affair With Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA

I must start by saying this is not a response to Ms. Walter’s exposé of her short-lived affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA. What follows is a collection of random thoughts and beliefs, some of which I have held for years – and have now decided to share. You will find that not all of them are directly correlated to the situation Ms. Walter describes.

Let’s go:

1.    At their very best, Pastors are only MEN of God. There is no simpler way to convey this truth. Your Pastor, no matter how holy he behaves and how many times a day he says “God bless you”, is only a man. His ‘Pastoral calling’ does not grant him immunity to the temptations and fallings that befall other men. Guys, even Jesus was a man! (I Tim. 2: 5). He grew hungry, thirsty, and was equally tempted by the devil!

2.    We are ALL the anointed of God. The verse which says in part “…touch not my anointed, and do my Prophets no harm” is often quoted out of context. A while back I was reading about a Pastor who sexually molested a 2-year old, and someone in the comments section was taking everyone else to the cleaners – arguing that they were “touching God’s anointed”. Chimo! If you would make time to read I Chron. 16: 16-22, you would see that the phrase “my anointed” referred to the people of Israel! All of them, and now ALL OF US!

3.    It is okay to correct church leaders when they slip up. Yes! I said that, and I’ll say it again. Church leaders sometimes make mistakes, and it is totally okay to correct them – so long as it is done in love. Do you guys remember Peter? Remember how he became de-facto head of the church after Jesus’s ascension to heaven? Okay. Now do you remember Paul? Remember how he was travelling around persecuting Christians while Peter’s shadow was healing the sick (Acts 5: 12-16)? It might interest you to know that Paul corrected Peter “to his face” in Antioch “because he (Peter) was clearly in the wrong”. (Gal. 2: 11-21, NIV). It might also interest you to know Jesus regularly corrected the Pharisees and Sadducees (leaders of the religious institution of the time) in public.

4.    A man who does not answer to any higher authority is a disaster waiting to happen. When female friends call to tell me they are entering into ‘maritally-intended’ relationships, I often ask them if their partners have mentors or people they hold in high esteem. (Males rarely call to ‘announce’). Times come when men make mistakes (some of them honest and sincere), and their families need to cry for outside help as a last resort. Woe betide her who marries a man without mentors/role models/father figures in his life. No man is reasonable 100% of the time. Accountability is important! Very important!

5.    If you ever need to ‘report’ your Pastor, ‘report’ him to his mentor – not to his protégés. In I. Peter 5: 5, young men are exhorted to submit to those who are older. Spiritual authority is taken very seriously amongst Pastors and their protégés, and it is foolhardy to expect a protégé to correct his ‘Senior Pastor’. If you ever run into an issue with your Pastor that needs to be discussed with a third party – find his mentor; not a subordinate!

6.    We need to help our Pastors, not worship them! I have been to churches where members fawned over their pastors, seeming to worship the ground they walked on. Kai! That is idolatry o! We should respect our Pastors and leaders, but NOT WORSHIP THEM! I have heard testimonies where people gave thanks to “Papa”, blessed “Papa” for interpreting their dreams and praying for them, and asked the congregation to rise and clap their hands for “Papa”. Ewe! Guys!! What is the place of God in all that when you ascribe all the glory to “Papa”?

Pastors and leaders need help o! My one year as General Secretary (I was not even a Pastor o) of OAU’s University Joint Christian Mission (UJCM) was one of my toughest! Believe me when I say I experienced temptation in a new dimension entirely – and ask Busola or P Soj for details if you don’t. I could only wonder what people like Pastors Olumide and Kolapo, and fine-boy Pastors like Ayotunde Ilesanmi of CASOR were facing on a daily basis.

If Pastor asks you to come to the hotel, do him a favor and DON’T GO! If he asks you to sit on his laps, kick off your shoes and run!! If he asks you to wait behind after two or three consecutive services for extra counselling, tell him you prefer to speak to his wife!!! Help Pastor!!!

7.    You MUST know God for yourself! This is the most important of all these thoughts, and I have saved it for last. One of the greatest things that happened to Christianity was the ‘democratization’ of the Bible. Read your Bible, and get to know YOUR God for YOURself! When we stand before God, we will all stand by ourselves for ourselves! There will be no singing and dancing “awa egbe COZA, aa de!” No! Pastor will not be able to say something in your defense on that day!

A number of ‘commenters’ on Ms. Walter’s post have asked her to take it down because it might hurt other people’s belief in God. Frankly, this is balderdash. I understand that we hold some men in higher esteem than others, but if your belief in God can be hurt by your Pastors shortcomings, then maybe you need to lose this ‘belief’ and rediscover God for yourself.

Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you!

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  1. Kemi Odesola says:

    Your the only blogger that has made alot of sense on this issue. We need more people like you. Truthfully, i believe Ese, even though she has not come out with a proof like many people have been demanding. She boldly said she is also guilty, and she reported to other elders of the church but like u said she may have taken it to his mentor and if nothing is done then, she could do whatever she wanted. i support the fact she made it public, not just because it is her confession but because she needs to warn others who idolize so called men of God. The pastor doesnt need to consult only God knows who, to give a robust reply. To me his buying time to cook up more lies(however, i may be wrong). But many people are coming out to say don’t judge and touch not my anointed, especially his followers but they forget that God’s judgement is far worse. Another person told me that this is an example of Joseph in the bible, i.e Pastor Biodun is Joseph but i told him it may actually be Ese that is the Joseph in this story. I was asked not to take sides until the allegations are backed up with proofs and facts but my question is what happens when the allegation is a confession, can Ese confess a crime she did not commit?I don’t think so. You will always confess a crime or a wrongdoing and you never have to prove it because it is a confession and you are guilty. If someone is involved in a hit and run incident and he owns up to the police, do you think the police will conduct further investigation or ask for proof that the person was the one that committed the crime? i guess not.
    Anyway, thanks for being very objective.

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